On Being a Good Mum

Since Sebastian was born I have gone to bed every single night and thought about how 

I have no idea what I'm doing. 

Is he eating the right foods? Is he being socialized enough? Do I have a wide range of activities for him? Am I talking to him enough? Reading to him enough? Loving him enough? Am I reading the right books? Should I throw the books away? It never ends. 

I'm alone here in Scotland. It is just LD and me. We don't have our families helping us make the right decisions or showing us what to do. We're just here trying to figure it all out. 

Last week Sebastian had his 2 yr developmental check.  We're going through activities with Sebastian to see what he can do. We're having loads of fun but it is time to show off baby! 

Our health visitor Jan and I were going over the things Sebastian and I do on a normal day {and also not so normal days}. Then she told me I'm doing more to teach and stimulate my child than most of the mum's she see's and she thinks I'm a great mum. 

My hands immediately covered my face and I let out a sob. I just sat there and cried. 

"Why are you crying?" Jan asked.

"Because nobody has ever told me that I'm a good Mum."

I finally felt that I was on the right path. Someone--who is an expert--told me so. Even if I really don't have any idea what I'm doing...someone noticed and told me I was good. I really needed that.

I can always do more. I'm always learning what Sebastian needs--but I'm trying. As long as we're trying I think we're all good Mom's.

Tell a friend she's a good Mom. You don't know how much she'll need to hear it.